When you consciously shift your mindset to the goals you have, to the relationship you want, you are able to begin moving toward the things you want. When you work to choose curiosity over judgment, compassion over criticism, you're not just thinking differently, but creating new neural pathways. You're teaching your brain a new way to relate.

This week my heart has been heavy. The headlines, the violence, the careless cruelty are loud. Rage is an understandable reflex, as is fear. But here is the hard truth I keep returning to: rage may feel powerful, yet it corrodes our bodies and our relationships. Kindness is not naïve. Kindness is necessary.

Why summer vacation is often more of a struggle than we want. A couple looking out at the ocean on the beach. Couple after couple I see...

There are no hacks for deep connection. The feeling of love that everyone craves is forged in inefficiency, by struggling through the...

That title sounds crazy, doesn’t it? Yet, we all make hundreds of mistakes a day. From typos, spilled milk, accidents, lost keys,...

(Image: Carolyn and her husband cross country skiing in Washington.) I bet like you, our falling in love was easy and joyful. We were...

When February 14th is rolling around… Some feel excited and giddy…. Others feel dread. Or irritation. Or pressure. It’s a loaded holiday....

“We were designed to connect with other people.” -Vivek Murthy One of the things I am talking most about with clients right now is the...

We all know the scene: a couple begins discussing a current challenge for them and are quickly down the rabbit hole of past injuries....

How to focus your attention where it has the greatest benefit… “It’s hard to experience desire when you’re weighted down by...

Communication Differences: This video is one of my favorites about relationships. Hilarious because it is absolutely true-I think many of...

As we have shared with couples in our practices that we are beginning to offer retreats, a number have asked what prompted this. Well,...