When you consciously shift your mindset to the goals you have, to the relationship you want, you are able to begin moving toward the things you want. When you work to choose curiosity over judgment, compassion over criticism, you're not just thinking differently, but creating new neural pathways. You're teaching your brain a new way to relate.

This week my heart has been heavy. The headlines, the violence, the careless cruelty are loud. Rage is an understandable reflex, as is fear. But here is the hard truth I keep returning to: rage may feel powerful, yet it corrodes our bodies and our relationships. Kindness is not naïve. Kindness is necessary.

There are no hacks for deep connection. The feeling of love that everyone craves is forged in inefficiency, by struggling through the...

(Image: Carolyn and her husband cross country skiing in Washington.) I bet like you, our falling in love was easy and joyful. We were...

“We were designed to connect with other people.” -Vivek Murthy One of the things I am talking most about with clients right now is the...