Building Stronger Relationships for a Better World
Fire It Up: Four Secrets to Reigniting Intimacy and Joy in Your Relationship
Silver Medal, Readers' Favorite International Book Awards.
Second Place, BookFest Fall 2025, Relationships/Nonfiction.
Finalist, 2025 IPPY Awards, Sexuality/Relationships.
Finalist, 2025 Next Generation Indie Book Awards, Relationships/Nonfiction.
Every relationship has more in it than you've found yet. More honesty, more ease, more of that feeling of being genuinely known by someone who chooses you every day. Most of us just don't know how to get there from where we are, not because we don't care, but because nobody ever taught us how relationships actually work.
This book does that. In plain language, with real examples and more than a little humor, Fire It Up gives you a clear framework for understanding what's driving your relationship and a practical path for changing it.
Whether you've been together two years or twenty, whether things feel broken or just a little flat, the tools in this book work, and they work faster than you'd expect.
Published by Flashpoint Books
What people are saying:
"A beacon of hope for couples navigating relationship complexities. A must-read." — Tony Rousmaniere, PsyD, President, Psychotherapy Division, American Psychological Association
"Fire It Up quite literally saved our relationship." — Jill
"Incredibly relatable and practical with real examples and actionable steps." — Amazon Reviewer
WANT TO GO DEEPER?
The book is the map. The Fire It Up Marriage Accelerator is the guided journey, with Carolyn leading you through every exercise, every tool, and every framework in the book through video lessons, downloadable worksheets, and a relationship manual you'll return to again and again. If you want more than reading, the program is where the real work happens.
About the Author
Carolyn Sharp is a licensed therapist, coach, TEDx speaker, and the founder of Secure Connections.
She has spent thirty years helping couples and individuals build relationships that are honest, resilient, and fully alive.
She lives in northern Massachusetts with her husband and their four dogs, where they spend time in nature and harassing their kids to come visit.