This week my heart has been heavy. The headlines, the violence, the careless cruelty are loud. Rage is an understandable reflex, as is fear. But here is the hard truth I keep returning to: rage may feel powerful, yet it corrodes our bodies and our relationships. Kindness is not naïve. Kindness is necessary.

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