When you consciously shift your mindset to the goals you have, to the relationship you want, you are able to begin moving toward the things you want. When you work to choose curiosity over judgment, compassion over criticism, you're not just thinking differently, but creating new neural pathways. You're teaching your brain a new way to relate.

This week my heart has been heavy. The headlines, the violence, the careless cruelty are loud. Rage is an understandable reflex, as is fear. But here is the hard truth I keep returning to: rage may feel powerful, yet it corrodes our bodies and our relationships. Kindness is not naïve. Kindness is necessary.

That title sounds crazy, doesn’t it? Yet, we all make hundreds of mistakes a day. From typos, spilled milk, accidents, lost keys,...

(Image: Carolyn and her husband cross country skiing in Washington.) I bet like you, our falling in love was easy and joyful. We were...

Winter is a season of recovery and preparation. -Paul Theroux There was a record snowstorm here in the foothills of the Cascade Mountains...

How to focus your attention where it has the greatest benefit… “It’s hard to experience desire when you’re weighted down by...

Here is a blog post I wrote about consensual nonmonogamy for the PACT Institute Website: By Carolyn Sharp, LICSW PACT Level 3...

For newly engaged couples, there is the thrill of the life ahead. Folks are in bliss after finding their life partner—as they should...

There’s a wide variation of opinions about Valentine’s Day and its benefits. Some people look forward to the holiday as a means to...