“Love rests on two pillars: surrender and autonomy.”

~Ester Perel

PACT Couples Workshops in Seattle

Take a deep dive to lift your relationship to the next level

Has the pandemic taken the life out of your relationship? Feeling more like roommates than lovers? Needing help not spending all your little energy fighting about stupid stuff? 

If any of these feel true, join us at one of the Spring Clean Your Relationship: Release And renew masterclass on May 21st to revive your relationship and find some fun! 




Relationship Spring Cleaning: Get rid of the junk

in your relationship once and for all. 

The Repair and Release Masterclass. 

  • Do you and your partner always recycle the same fights about problems in your past? 


  • Do you hear the same complaints over and over, despite all your efforts to apologize and grow? 


  • Do you feel like you can’t move past that thing your partner did years ago? 

Let go of the dumb fights that keep recycling through your relationship. Learn how to turn old fights and squabbles into the connection and growth. release the injuries of the past and how to create room for connection, growth, passion and joy together. 

  • Won’t it be great when you both finally let go of the old and tired arguments? 


  • Excited to never hear, “You always…” ever again?


  • How awesome will it feel to be free of the junk of your past and able to fully share together in your life together without resentment? 


  • Renew your relationship by releasing old fights, irritations and injuries that have never served your relationship and just keep you stuck? 


This program will help you and your partner let go of past injuries and hurts, create meaningful repair and forgiveness and move them into the past forever. Through live or pre-recorded lessons, Carolyn will teach you all the steps to a complete repair and release of the old injuries that keep following you around.* By the end of this masterclass in forgiveness and renewal, you will feel lighter, more connected and free of the fights that have haunted you for years. 

Cost: $77 per couple. 

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The Power of “I’m Sorry”: How repairing injuries is your most helpful tool for a healthy relationship.

Repair is one of the most important pieces of relationship maintenance. As human beings, we are all messy and imperfect and you will make many errors over the course of your relationship. Mistakes are not a problem. But mistakes repeated without repair are stored in our memories and create expectations of future hurts and an atmosphere absent of safety and security. Repairing resolves this and creates strength, connection, and safety for both of you. 


In this one day retreat, we will teach you the brain science and the process for creating successful repair for both of you, both giving and receiving. Through teachings and exercises, you will learn how to craft the perfect repair for each injury and how to feel soothed and supported as you provide this care to your partner. Throughout, you will also experience compassion and humor as common mistakes are made safe to acknowledge in this small group workshop. 


Thinking About Polyamory? Is Consensual Nonmonogamy Healthy for Your Relationship?

More and more couples who come for therapy are interested in polyamory or consensual nonmonogamy. Some have been practicing it for years and believe it to be part of their values and their self-expression. Others believe it will bring sexual excitement and enhanced intimacy to their primary relationship. Regardless of where you are in your relationship, the decision to introduce other people into your committed relationship carries significant risk and challenge and should be done with a great deal of thought and care.


This evening series will provide information and guidance in making the healthiest decision about whether to open your relationship and how to do so while maintaining security and connection together. Discussion and break-out exercises will support you and your partner learning to navigate challenging discussions that will support you as a couple, regardless what you decide.


Spark or Fire: Learning to use your conflict to grow closer.

Sharing a life with another person is easily the most difficult thing we do as adults. It is also the most worthwhile. Your differences which attracted you to each other and created that spark are now annoyances and difficulties that ignite battles about housework, parenting, hobbies, sex, money and all the other things you share. Learning how to resolve these differences and feel good at the end of these struggles is critically important to staying connected toward your shared goals.


In this half-day workshop, Carolyn will provide the neurobiological information to help you understand how fights start and how to support each other from getting tipped into “fight or flight” with one another. Through fun and lively exercises, she will help you feel the difference in learning to fight and recover quickly in creating “win-win” situations in ANY conflict.