Building Stronger Relationships for a Better World
Fire It Up: Four Secrets to Reigniting Intimacy and Joy in Your Relationship​
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Bored, Stuck, or Just Plain Over It?
Fire It Up is your guide to turning a disconnected, stressed-out relationship into one that’s alive, joyful, and rock-solid.
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Modern life pulls you in a hundred directions—and your relationship often takes the hit. Maybe you’re stuck in stupid arguments that never go anywhere. Maybe you miss the spark you once had, when you couldn’t wait to see each other at the end of the day. Maybe you just feel like roommates, passing each other by.
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You don’t have to settle.
In Fire It Up, expert couples therapist Carolyn Sharp breaks down a clear, science-backed, four-step process to reignite real intimacy, trust, and fun. With humor, hard-won wisdom, and real-world strategies, she shows you how to stop tiptoeing around issues, understand what’s actually driving conflict, and build the connection you both crave.
If you’ve ever thought, "We love each other—why is this so hard?" this book is for you.
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"Incredibly relatable and practical. Carolyn Sharp gives real examples and actionable steps to reignite relationships." —Amazon Reviewer
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"A must-read for couples looking to reconnect and truly understand one another." —Amazon Reviewer
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"Fire It Up is a beacon of hope for couples navigating the complexities of relationships.... A must-read." —Tony Rousmaniere, PsyD, President of the Psychotherapy Division of the American Psychological Association
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If you’re ready for a relationship that’s vibrant, resilient, and full of life—you’re ready to Fire It Up.
Published by Flashpoint Books and
Available January 7, 2025
Meet the Author
Carolyn Sharp always knew she wanted a career in helping people. She earned a master of social work from Portland State University and has extensive training in attachment, neuroscience, trauma, and mindfulness. Today, she is an experienced couples therapist with twenty-five years of training and practice in helping people build vital, vibrant, and secure functioning relationships through one-on-one and group couples coaching, workshops, retreats, and intensives. She combines her passion for helping people with her widespread experience to create the healthiest and happiest relationships possible. She lives with her husband and their four dogs in northern Massachusetts, where they spend time in nature and harassing their kids to come visit.
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Relationship Coaching Built
for Real Life
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At Secure Connections, I offer science-based relationship coaching, retreats, and VIP experiences for couples and individuals—both in Northern Massachusetts and virtually around the world.
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Rooted in the Psychobiological Approach to Couple Therapy (PACT), my work teaches you how to spot the patterns pulling you apart as they happen—and build new habits that actually bring you closer.
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We focus on strengthening the foundation every relationship needs: mutuality, collaboration, sensitivity, and fairness. When you understand the attachment needs driving behavior—yours and your partner’s—you gain the tools to create a relationship that feels secure, resilient, and alive.
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